The Follow Up…

After the week of “operation get ya life” I’ve heard some of the most negative comments from other people about me. It has been the most criticism I’ve received, all based on one particular thing. Almost felt as if everything I did and said was wrong. I felt like I just couldn’t win. Then I began to think about the goals I had in mind for that week of isolation. I wanted to change things about myself that weren’t helping me grow. I opened myself up to it. I was open to finding out those negative characteristics that needed to go.
Sometimes you can’t go based off what you think you know. Sometimes you have to see how other people view you. And this is exactly what began to happen.
Although some of the things that were said weren’t pleasant to hear, especially from those closest to me. I choose to let it be my motivation. I won’t soak in the comments. I’ll look at it as a positive thing. It’s only going to help me grow in the long run. The only way you can change something is if you’re aware that its a problem.
Tonight as I read my devotion before I went to bed, the very last sentence was just what I needed to hear. It said, “Don’t fight it and grow.” It spoke directly to me and my situation. I can’t fight the words that were spoken to me, I have to use them to grow.
So I encourage you to always look for the good in everything. See how you can turn a negative situation into a positive one. Don’t fight it, allow it to help you grow!

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Get Ya Life!

We may all come to a point in our lives where we realize we’re not where we should be. We sit back, observe, and notice we need to get our lives. And get it quick. Sometimes in order to do this, we need to take a step back from everyone and everything. I was recently in this position and thought, why not write about it and share a little of my experience with you.

So about a week ago, I knew it was necessary that I get a few things in my life organized. I also knew that I couldn’t do this without isolating myself a little. Knowing all of this, I made the decision to go on a little hiatus. I committed to giving my phone a break. In other words, I made a choice to stop talking on the phone, texting, and give up all social networks (Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter). Now for a person like me, who’s on their phone quite a bit, that’s really a sacrifice. Even the people that are the closest to me, the people I speak to religiously on a daily basis, I wasn’t in contact with. This wasn’t something that I was necessarily overjoyed about, but I knew it was something that I needed to do. I only used my phone during this time, if it was something important. I must say, I did a relatively good job, kudos to me! Lol. But on a serious note, these few days were so beneficial.

So when starting or going through any process, there should always be a goal set in place. Some of my goals for this hiatus was to get my relationship with God back to where it needed to be (spending more time with Him), get my finances in order, create a feasible budget, do more reading, dedicate more time to writing, and become more aware of some things about myself that I needed to work on. I decided to create a game plan for these next few months so that I could go into the new year a little better. So I pretty much wanted to grow. And although I know this sounds like a lot to get done in a matter of days, I would have been satisfied just getting a start on it. Because obviously things don’t just change overnight, it does take time.

One of the most important things to take away from this, is that I was open to change before I began. I was open to hopefully coming up with methods to change certain areas in my life. I was pretty much open to making a better life for myself. When you make yourself open and available to change, that’s just what you’ll get.
So as I started my week, I started off with prayer and reading, something I don’t always do. Some days I would start my morning with a phone call. Although my day didn’t go bad when I started them with a phone call, it was a bit of a difference starting with prayer and reading. It gave me the fuel I needed for the day. It allowed me to stay focused and on task.

I then made some phone calls about these ungodly college loans and rearranged some of my bills. I also made a monthly budget, considering how much I wanted to spend and how much I wanted to save.

I wrote what I benefited from on a day to day basis, things I noticed about myself during the day and what I needed to work on and change. I also wrote down what I planned to accomplish in the next few months.

Another important thing I noticed, is how much time I actually spent on my phone. With the amount of reading, writing, and personal organization I did, it showed me that I wasted too much time on a daily basis. Although after coming from the hiatus, I don’t plan to continue to completely give up time spent on my phone, I do plan to limit it. I was able to come up with a plan where I could get all that I needed to do in on a day to day basis and fill in some of the things that I wanted to do as well. Win win situation. But I had to become aware of where the most of my time went so that I could change what I needed to change.
Going into this I knew that there were some decisions I needed to make concerning my life, without the opinions of other people. I needed to get some things squared away on my own. This time away from people helped me to get my thoughts down on paper and reason some things out. I made up in my mind that I didn’t want to allow anyone’s thoughts or opinions to determine how I move. Being in hibernation helps build your confidence as well. When you’re constantly reminding yourself of who you are and what you’re capable of doing through positive affirmation, you begin to grow.
I was aware of my attitude and behavior as well, within those few days. And this was because I took time to reflect and see if there was anything that I could change. Again this was only possible because I was open to it.

There were a few other personal things I was able to accomplish as well. Without getting into detail, I did all of this to become better, so that I would be able to grow. I wanted to get closer to the person that I’m supposed to be in life.
I ultimately wanted to solidify a game plan before the year was out. There are certain things I refuse to go into the new year with. I’ve avoided too much for way too long, mostly because of fear. So I made up in my mind, there would be no more planning without action, as I’ve done so often in the past.

What we must realize is, hibernation and quietude can be very beneficial to our lives. In order to “get ya life”, there are some sacrifices that you will have to make. You have to evaluate and manage your time. It’s important to assess where the bulk of your time is going and see if it’s taking over your priorities. Once you’ve done this, you can begin to make any necessary changes. So be open to change!

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Your Success, My Motivation…

Why is it that we as a people get jealous when we see someone progressing in a positive way in life? Why don’t we celebrate in other people’s success as much as we should? Why do we see the success of others and begin to feel bad about where we are in life?

We should be encouraged and inspired by others. Rather than hate on the next man, be encouraged. Allow their success to inspire you to go that much harder. If its possible for them, why not for you. Use it as motivation, rather than jealousy. They’ve been allotted the same 24 hours in a day as you. And although we all face different struggles and difficulties, we can all overcome them. It’s up to us. Things don’t happen overnight and we can’t expect them to. We shouldn’t feel bad about where we are because we feel like someone is a little further along. Learn to do what you can, with what you have, where you are. If you can’t make the best of where you currently are, there’s no way you can move forward in life.

You don’t know what it took for a person to get where they are. Don’t get so caught up in the reward without thinking about the process. We all have to face our own personal struggles to get to where we’re supposed to be.

 

As I jotted down my thoughts, this quote came to mind…