Save The Date! 

🚨Special Announcement!!!🚨 Mark your calendar for July 11th!! I Am Beautifully Written and Lovely Miss Jones will be hosting a mother and daughter Ice Cream Social! If you’re a mother, aunt, older sister, mentor, or guardian of a young girl between the ages of 11-19, you’re going to want to attend this event! We’re gathering together to help bridge the gap and strengthen the relationships between these generations!! Save this date! For more information and sponsorship opportunities, contact myself or Tiffany via email! Tickets will be on sale next week! I’m excited! Join us for an afternoon of empowerment, building, strengthening, and fun! 

Flyer below! 



Don’t Be Afraid To Be Who You Are

It’s often heard of when people either try to be someone or something they are not, or hide who they really are. There are a myriad of reasons that we do this. Whether it be to please other people, make ourselves look good, because we don’t like who we are, or because we’re afraid of what others may think. As some of you may be, I’m guilty of hiding who I was on several occasions. As I’ve shared, there have been times where I wasn’t comfortable with who I was, and was afraid of what others would think. Whatever reason we choose to downplay who we really are, will eventually or immediately result in unhappiness. 

I’m pretty open about the insecurities I’ve dealt with in the past. I’m also open in sharing that some of my insecurities still creep up from time to time if I don’t check it. As I’ve become comfortable with who I am, I still get nervous in certain settings, I still look at the way certain people do things. It’s natural, all apart of life. But it’s up to us to allow those thoughts and feelings to pass. 

Writing has become a passion for me. However, there was a time that I compared my writing to others. I’ve contributed and guest blogged for several online publications, but there was still this fear that my writing wasn’t good enough. There was one publication in particular that asked me to write for them. I gladly said yes, but I became nervous. I knew how intelligent this person was and how eloquently this person spoke. And I said to myself, it’s very rare that I use big fancy words (not that I don’t know any lol) in my writing or have these amazing parables or analogies. I was later reminded through thought, of the messages I’d received from those who were touched by my simple blog posts and articles. I was reaching people, and they were encouraged. I could’ve been pushed to unhappiness by racking my brain with other people’s writing styles. I could’ve tried to be like other people and imitated their style. But that isn’t who I am. And I wouldn’t be happy if I went down that path. I’m comfortable with my simple writing because I know, even if it’s one person, it’s reaching someone. 

For those who may not know, I’m a very silly person. I like to laugh, have fun and an all around good time. But with my track record, of course I wondered whether people would think I’m this or that, or too much. But I’ve learned to be just as silly as I want to be, because it’s who I am. Although I am a good amount of the time, I don’t always want to be serious. There are times that call for that, but there has to be a balance. Which is the only way to happiness. I truly believe having a sense of humor brings joy into the lives of others. And I’m always glad to do that. 

This weekend I was asked to do a task that was out of my comfort zone. Not a big deal to some, but it was for me. It’s easy to think about how others do what you are asked to do so you can maybe take something from them. The first thing I heard was, “be yourself and you’ll be fine. No one’s asking you to be someone else.” Then another person said, “you’ll be fine, just be yourself.” I completed the task, nervous and all. During the process, I was only myself. And became a little more comfortable as I went along. That evening I received a message that said, “never be afraid to be who you are.” This help me to further realize that I don’t have to be afraid, I just have to be myself. In order to do what I’ve been called to do, I just have to be who God created me to be. 

It’s not only exhausting to try to hide who you are and/or be someone else; it leads to unhappiness, it doesn’t allow the true greatness that’s inside of you to be shown, and it won’t help you to grow. At the end of the day, the right people will be placed in your life; that’ll accept you for who you are and be willing to go through your growing process with you. So I encourage you to try to forget about what others may think or what others are doing. Be who you are, and always stay true to yourself. It’s the only way you’ll be able to flourish and walk happily in the manifestation of your calling. 
                                         

Editor’s Note: LMJ College Scolarship

Good afternoon Lovies,

We are three months away from our One Year Anniversary! Time is really flying. We’ve been working on a few things during this year. Not only have I been writing for different online publication, but there are a few projects in the works as well. We’re moving, growing, and trying our best to create positive change in the lives of others!

In celebration of our one year anniversary, we would like to support a young person (young people) with their financial obligation to college. As I’ve experienced, many of you as well, college can be very expensive. There were many semesters during my college years, that I wasn’t sure if I’d be able to go back to school. I was blessed to have the support of others to help me through my journey. And I’d like to help alleviate the stress on one or two of our young people who are struggling with a tuition bill, or those who may not know how they are going to purchase books. 

It’s possible, but we need your help! We’ve started a gofundme, to help raise the money. We need your assistance to push this next generation towards their goals! Please, help us as we intend to help our young people pursue their dreams and become our future leaders!

To donate, visit gofundme.com/LMJScholarship! Thank you in advance for your contributions!
~Miss Jones 😘

Who Are We Entertaining, And Why?

I came across a post this week on Instagram that said, “I’m not responsible for who I attract. I’m responsible for who I entertain.” This made me think, because I’ve most definitely, like many of you, have been here. On both sides of the spectrum. 
There are many cases where we attract people we have absolutely no interest in. That’s not on us, and as the post said, we’re not responsible for that. However, what we do after, and how we act on the situation is. And there are times we give in and entertain them anyway. But the question is: 
Why entertain someone or a situation you know isn’t going to grow? 
I’ve been there before. At a point where I knew it wasn’t going to work, but I entertained it anyway. Here are a few reasons why we tend to stick around and stay in situations where we aren’t really interested in the other party: 

1. Sometimes we just want to have fun. And think to ourselves, why not? The right one hasn’t come as yet. There are times where we just want someone around to keep us company. We see there’s no one else around with potential, so we we just accept what’s right in front of us. 
2. We think they’re really good people, and don’t want to hurt them. There are times where we get to know someone and still have no interest in them, but we realize that they are good people. It’s hard to potential hurt someone you believe is a great person. It’s quite often that we just stick around to spare the feelings of someone else. 
3. We want it to work out because of where we are in life. We may feel like we’re getting older and are ready to settle down. So instead of waiting it out, we settle for who right in front of us knowing we aren’t really feeling them, or knowing they aren’t really good for us. We try to rush things because we feel like we’re supposed to be in a relationship or married by a certain time. Or even because all of our friends have been going in that direction. 
Although these reasons are understandable, they’re not beneficial at all. I have most definitely been in these situations, and I’ll tell you, they never work. When we just entertain someone for our purposes, we not only hold ourselves back, but we end up hurting the other party. I’ve realized how selfish it is to just want to have company when the other party is genuinely invested. And you’ll never get any real fulfillment in the long run. 
It’s often that we want to put other peoples feelings before ours. However, in this case, there’s no win win. We end up becoming bitter because there’s nothing in it for us. And eventually it’ll destroy the relationship. And the other party would be more hurt than they possibly would’ve been if they were told in the beginning how you felt. It’s ok to let a person know that you think they’re a great person, but it won’t work out. 
Many women and even men, put a time stamp on relationships and marriage. And when it doesn’t come in their timing, they (we) tend to settle. But we don’t realize that we are blocking what’s really meant for us. Sometimes we have to go through a waiting process. A process that prepares us for what’s coming. And in that process, the one that’s meant for us is being prepared as well. 
Sometimes we have to take a step back and evaluate the people we entertain. Question why you’re entertaining them. If you know for a fact you’re not interested in them or you don’t see it going anywhere; it may be wise to just be upfront about it. It’s better to keep it real than to go through a whole relationship unfulfilled. Think about both parties. In some cases, you need to be selfish and realize when you’re settling. And other times you need to think of the other party and if you’re entertaining them for your selfish pleasure. You don’t want to hurt anyone and you don’t want to end up becoming bitter. 
Let’s learn to make better choices and realize when we’re entertaining people for the wrong reasons.