After meeting and hearing part of Dhylles Davis’ story as an overcomer at an event a few months ago, I was able to sit and talk with her about her book, her life, and her journey.
Dhylles is a life coach, motivational speaker, and author of ‘Your Life! Your Purpose! No Explanation!’ Her book is not your ordinary self-help book. It is a book that not only causes you to think and make changes in your life, but also shares personal experiences within every chapter.
Below you will find some of the highlights from the face to face interview with Dhylles Davis herself.
Miss Jones: At what point did you make the decision to become a life coach?
Dhylles Davis: It was at the age of 32 that I realized I needed to find myself. I had gone through many trials, from being sexually abused from 7-14 to having battles with death. This is when I realized I needed to share my story and help others as well.
Miss Jones : What were some of the steps you had to take to get where you are today?
Dhylles Davis: I had to be honest about my truth, embrace who I was, and forgive. I had to forgive the person in my life that molested me, as well as my mother.
MJ: You speak a lot about the importance of having a relationship with yourself in your book. How did you get to that place?
DD: I didn’t always have a great relationship with myself. I couldn’t be alone with myself. It was something that I had to practice. I had to look at myself in the mirror until I was comfortable with who I saw. I also had to take myself out on dates.
MJ: What were some of your fears during this process?
DD : My greatest fears were being honest in my book, confrontation with others, and learning how to say no.
MJ: What were some of the biggest things you’ve overcome during this process?
DD: The conversation I had to have with my mom after the book was written was one of the things I had to overcome. Because of the transparency in the book, she didn’t like everything I decided to include.
Then having the conversation with my family, helping them to understand that this is something I needed to do. I had to face my truth and share it with others.
And through all of this, I had to find my own voice.
MJ: After putting out so much into other people through your coaching and motivational speaking, how do regain your strength?
DD: Sometimes it can be overwhelming to pour out so much. I had to go on hiatus for a couple of months, where I took a step back from everything. I also have a wonderful husband who’s always there for me. We have created a beautiful space within our home, where I can have a clear mind and breath. Lastly, my positive outlook on life always keeps me lifted.
MJ: Speaking of your husband, when we first met, I instantly saw how supportive he was of you. How has having him by your side been helpful to you and your progress?
DD: My husband has been amazing. The love we have for each other is incredible. He’s been tremendously supportive of me in every way possible. We can literally talk about anything. We keep communication at the top of our list, and I believe that is what sustained us all of these years. We’ve been together for seven years, and married for three. We’ve been through so much throughout that time. I’ve had three miscarriages, a still born, three DNC’s, and got very sick afterwards. I almost died because my fibroids were infected, and I had to have them removed. Three weeks later, I had to have my gall bladder removed as well. This was two weeks before my wedding. I told the doctors I had to still be able to fit into my wedding dress. My husband said he was marrying me the date of our scheduled wedding, no matter what.
There was really no time for me to fully process all that I had gone through until after the wedding. A week later is when I just broke down. Sitting in the living room, I just sat and cried. And my husband sat there right beside me.
MJ : What were some of your biggest struggles throughout the duration?
DD: Marketing and promotions of the book were one of my biggest struggles. Repeating and sharing my affirmations, along with my story. Also, being dedicated was a struggle of mine. Being able to complete my book without offending people. And lastly the conversation I had to have with my mother concerning the book. It was a struggle because she is still my mother, however, I had to let her know that I couldn’t be a walking contradiction I had to first clean out my own closet before I was able to help someone else with theirs.
MJ: What’s the most fulfilling thing about what you do?
DD: I have to say the most fulfilling thing about my job as a life coach is when I hear someone say, “I didn’t know that was my purpose.” Or ” I didn’t think about it like that. You’ve really helped me.”
MJ: How would you encourage someone else who’s going down the same path that you had to go down?
DD: I would tell them not to be afraid to open up, be fearless. You never know who you’re inspiring.
MJ: What do you ultimately wish to accomplish?
DD: Peace, purpose, and happiness. At the end of the day, this is what everyone is seeking. I’d like to touch lives and help others accomplish this as well.
MJ: What are your favorite motivational phrases?
DD: I have two. The first is a quote by Mahatma Ghandi, which says, ‘Each night, when I go to sleep, I die. And the next morning, when I wake up, I am reborn.” And the second is, opportunities are new everyday.
MJ: Is there anything else you would like to leave with the readers?
DD: Love life and live it. Don’t live in the past. Be fearless and take leaps of faith and positive risks. Remember, through vulnerability comes strength. Acknowledge necessary change. And crawl before you walk.
Stay up to date and for consultations with the coaching Cupid, Dhylles Davis by visiting her networks. Website: Dhyllesdavis.com. Blog: http://www.startlivingstopexisting.com. Instagram/Twitter: @thecoachingcupid.
Also, visit her website and purchase her book ‘Your Life! Your Purpose! no Explanations!’ I’m telling you, you won’t be disappointed. This book has personally pushed me to think and reconsider some of the things in my own life. It’s encouraging and inspiring to say the least.